How to Set Goals - 3 MIQs

See how the pivotal moment that ignited my passion and set me on the path to achieving my dreams was nothing short of transformative. This spark of inspiration drove my journey to mastering the art of goal setting and realizing my fullest potential.

The moment I realized, my heart was filled with rage, my eyes wouldn’t stop shedding tears, and thousands of thoughts were running through my head frantically. This is not the life I was hoping for. This is not. Abruptly, a voice from deep down yells, "I want to live blissfully, I desire to live freely.”

I’m so sick of World’s Ways.

I’m so sick of the Brules.

I’m so sick of Relative Truths.

I then decided to live in the way I desired to live. I’m not bound by culturescape brules.

Hey, if you are struggling to find meaning and to live freely, The most crucial question you have to ask yourself is - "What is that you want" ( You don't know what you do want, until you know what you don't want)

Once you figure out what you desire, We need to write down our Three Most Important Questions (3MIQs) to gain more clarity. This will create a path for you with so much transparency. Be with me, learn this, and engage from sprouts to nuts.

Before jumping to 3MIQs, we have to clear some of the fuzzy thoughts that are blocking our connection.

The Brule ( the bullsh*t rule)

If you get a job, you’ll be free. Free, the heck. How are you going to be free while doing a job? All right, If you have one, are you happy? Are you free? Are you living the life you wish to live? When are you going to be Free from conventional ways?

I call it a Brule because people tell you'll be happy if get a job.

Lack of a Job makes us depressed, but being in the wrong ridiculous trash job role makes us dumb, futile and hollow. I was in that situation too, the helpless position. I wanted to fly but didn't know how to. I wanted to learn but didn't know where from. Though I had a job, I used to grieve and scream due to the vagueness of how I wanted to perceive my ambition.

Where it all Started…?

This all begins in childhood. They say that studying well will give you good grades and, hence, secure a job. When we are out of the study loop, we are already trapped in a culturescape. We don’t even have a chance to follow what we love, our passion. This is so unfair.

In the book “ The Code of The Extraordinary Mind” Vishen describes the culturescape as -

“The culturescape sets up rules on how to love, how to eat, how to marry, and how to get a job. It establishes benchmarks to measure your self-worth. Are you good enough if you don’t have a college degree? Do you need to settle down and have kids? Embrace a religion? Choose a particular profession?”

Inner voice -

What am I doing all these days? Trying to dazzle others?

Is there a time when I truly tried to do a thing that I truly love?

I then determined I'll be true to myself, and pursue to live genuinely. Conquering myself. Make contentment my priority, and let growth be my ultimate greater importance. Spending my life purposefully. Create my own rules, transform my lifestyle, and I’ll be free. I'm Free.

Most of the successful people don't follow societal rules

Steve Jobs said "When you grow up, you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family life, have fun, and save money. That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact. That is — everything around you that you call life was made up by people no smarter than you. And you can change it. You can influence it. . .Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again."

This supported my inner voice and my thoughts. We don't have to live in the way that society created. We can choose to live how we want to live by disarming the brules of the culturescape.

"Most of the successful people don't follow societal rules" or is it the opposite - "They didn't follow societal rules hence they are successful."

How to set goals - 3 MIQs

[Note: Please remember that self-reflection is the most important aspect of transforming lives, it takes little effort because no one can delve into your mind but you.]

I'm just like you, who is craving for Freedom of doing whatever I desire to do. One day whilst I was scrolling YouTube, I found one of Midvalley's videos about How to set get goals-3MIQs. After watching the video and writing down all of my goals the picture is clearer and more transparent and I'm delighted, if anyone asks me what I want to do in life or with life, I'm no longer perplexed. I have the answer. Once you see it, you'll never unseen it again. You should have the courage to talk about your goals and believe your inner potential and that you can achieve them one day.

The Goals can have different forms :

3 MIQs are the Three Most Important Questions of your life. Those are

1. Experiences 

2. Growth

3. Contribution

The Mindvalley founder Vishen Lakhiani invent an amazing approach to getting out of culturescape.

“3 Most Important Questions – a transformative exercise designed to realign you to your true path in life. Think and reflect on the life you want to create for yourself by answering a simple set of three questions, and liberate yourself from the 'Culturescape' programming once and for all.”

Here is the link - 3MIQs open the link, and watch the video till the end. Write down your three MIQs. Believe me, it works like magic. It is much more delightful if you hear it from Vishen wisdom.

I believe together we can make this world a better place. The world is more of people who are like you and me sharing the same dreams. We are all connected. We can help each other to be joyful. How do you feel after unlocking your Goal Setting? Share your thoughts in the comments with the tribe.

My recent learnings from The Code of the Extraordinary Mind Book and Mindvalley inspire this blog.

I wish you all the best, you will do great. I will post another story soon which will be a lot more fascinating.

Until then, Matane.